A while ago I blogged about how I can sometimes find certain people difficult to deal with (See Difficult People) and what a Christian response to the situation might be.
Since then things haven’t been too bad.
However, this weekend things got heated once again.
I’m not taking to the internet to debate who was right or wrong or to point fingers. That is not fair, nor godly.
What I do want to say is that I am grateful for the guidance and wisdom of others that have helped me to navigate this problem. Mentors as well as those who have written books, such as ‘Keep Your Love On’ who have provided invaluable advice to cling on to when emotions threaten to boil over.
So on Sunday things got heated for various reasons. This ended up in me plucking up the courage to actually confront the person – but I didn’t want to make a scene, but felt I had to say something and couldn’t let things slide yet again.
So using some of the principles from the book, I approached the person in love. I was careful not to point fingers but to simply explain how I was feeling – turning the emotional impact towards myself.
It went better than I expected. We had a fairly decent conversation without losing our tempers (although my adrenaline was coursing through my veins – I was actually shaking).
I will continue to pray for the person as well as myself.
We all need to know how to deal with conflict and disagreement in a godly way. I would highly recommend prayer, talking to a mature Christian and reading ‘Keep Your Love On’!